Obese Love

My Facebook friend Chris Lc Bryant types:  got a topic for ya....... whose less likely to attract the opposite gender.......an obese man or an obese woman............

Personally I think an obese woman would be more attractive to a male then an obese man to women. Many men are more forgiving when it comes to looks (if she has a nice personality or is level headed and low drama she doesn't have to be cute) and aren't as judgmental (guys say stuff like "she’s cute for a big girl", "She cute in the face" & "I know she can cook")

Lots of females are shallow; a guy can be ugly as long as he has money, he can be chunky if he has style, he can mistreat her if his sex game is up to par But I feel like if he is obese she will use him, not claim him, make fun of him and lead him on with no sex of course.

~ Men look internal first, while women see external~ This reminds of the movie Shallow Hal !!!

It Takes One To Know One

If we constantly complain that our friends are fake hoes ~ Chances are we have fake hoe tendencies. If we always proclaim our friends are two-faced bitches ~ Chances are we are a two-faced bitch as well. If we say our ex is trifling ~ Chances are we were trifling when we were with them....... "Birds of a feather flock together" ........ While the people we choose to hang out with don't define who we are, it still says a lot about us..... Even if we stand out as an individual by not following when they do things we don't agree with, it doesn't matter because we are guilty by association. If you allow your friend to get played essentially you are playing yourself with betrayal  .......Instead of always pointing out everybody else's flaws take the time to self reflect on your shortcomings. Rather than talking about them, help them by suggesting other options or outlooks on issues they may be having.

~ Work it out OR walk away ~

See, look & hear , listen

What you see is what you get until you look deeper. When we see something/someone for the first time we develop a first impression and have a prejudice againt that person (which is usually wrong and based on our previous experiences against other people/objects  we have come in contact with), that is until we take the time to look deeper & get to know them for who they really are or the person they want us to see....... I can't count the number of times people thought I was the polar opposite of what I really was , just because of my skin tone, style, occupation or perceived attitude and vice versa.

What you hear is what you heard until you listen.
When we hear words we take them for what we are taught they mean but when we listen ~ we listen for inflections in speech, different tones, we listen to the context and take into consideration what they are really saying because sometimes we have to read between the lines. Thats why when someone is talking we should listen instead of thinking of what we are going to say next.

After all communication is 10% words, 40% tone of voice and 50% body language.

But actions speak louder than words anyway ~ so do what you say & say what you mean to avoid confusion.

We can make it !!!

So because Mariah Carey married Nick Cannon you think there's hope.... but then Jada Pinkett is separated from Will Smith  so the hope no longer exists !?! Truth is 99% of us will never reach their status of fame & fortune. So why even depend on their life as the status quo? We live in reality not fantasy..... Reality: Our grandparents, parents,aunts and uncles who relationships have weathered the storm of infidelities, gossip, money problems, criminal activities, children issues, jail time, military time and any other losses & gains that mother nature pours down. While they may not be together this day and it may have taken a while many have a cordial relationship, wish each other the best and  may even help each other out from time to time. Not to mention they  and not the court decide the fate of their assets and children.

 Fantasy:  Normally lasts a few years & often ends with dirty habits being revealed, scandalous secrets being told, and bitter words being exchanged, not to mention manipulating the system by not paying bills or hiding property to gain financial control over the other.... Reality like love lasts a lifetime.... Fantasy like money can run out any time.

And we say "I don't know anybody that's happily married". You, yes you are a beautifully unique individualistic made creature. You weren't meant to be like anybody else. You are 1 and in reality you could be the 1 to change the game. However in fantasy you are a follower trying to follow in your idol's footsteps.

 We aren't our parents; yes we have their characteristics and no matter how hard we try, we will always act/think/ look like them. But by no means will we ever be them. Use their mistakes as a lesson you don't have 2 learn the hard way.

Give love ~ Receive love ~ Love love & love will love you back.

Life & Death

The untimely death of Whitney Houston has many people reminiscing about her life as we've known it through her beautiful music,which we've all fell in love with. As I read posts and comments on the Internet or hear conversations in the real world; I feel like we pay more homage to strangers then our loved ones. I mean,when is the last time you've visited a grave site, pulled weeds or taken flowers to the deceased. But here we are googling, you-tubing and anything else in our power to pay homage to our favorite celebrity strangers. While, we should take the time to visit and talk with our loved ones regardless of their age because as we are often reminded death is respectful in a manner because it doesn't discriminate on race, age, gender or education. Let's love our loved ones while we still have love to give. ~ Peace ~